Write With Humility, Not Hype: Standing in Subjectivity Over False Authority
Episode 08 of Calling Out the Shadows: A Clarity Over Comfort Podcast

For this short episode of Calling Out the Shadows podcast, I'm calling out the authors who have a lack of subjectivity, and an excess or a transformation of opinions into objectivity or trying to shift them into facts.

I know that many of these marketing gurus and many out there are saying, oh, you've got to come off strong. You've got to come off strong. You've got to come off dominant. You've got to come off with authority. But what if you're sharing an opinion? What if it doesn't apply to everyone? Isn't that deception? And isn't in the end that lying, if you're making statements, if you're making claims, if you're shifting and altering your opinions into facts. And then off of that, to then be able to quote, well, it's in my book that this is that. What if I wrote a complete lie into a book? And then from there, I say, well, I'm an author, and I have it, and it's published in a book. That doesn't make it true. And yet at the same time, it's almost like an expectation of certain authors and questionable authors with questionable authority, a lack of experience, and a serious lack of ability, and an excess of ego.

Making these intense claims of this is this, or the hype artist, that. This is exactly how you do this. And yet, if you take the time to dig into them, you might notice, they've had a linear experience, or they might have an experience that relates in no way to your situation, your knowledge, your financial background, your network. And yet, because they did this one thing, this one way, they now claim they have the answer for everyone.

So it's kind of a dual request. One, to the authors. Write, but write with a humility. Consider writing with a subjectivity. Have the ability to share your opinions and why they're your opinions. You don't have to lie and deceive and make something into a fact that isn't. Because in fact, your opinions may end up being the truth for someone. Your method may work for someone, but it may not work for everyone. And by this expectation of this is how you do this, or here's this, or here's that, to me, that's dangerous. It's deceptive. And to me, it's flat out lying.

So consider if you're an author, if you're a writer, step back, stand in subjectivity, stand in humility, showcase your experience. It doesn't lessen who you are. It doesn't take away from your experiences as a whole. It doesn't take away from your ability as a whole. It doesn't take away from your authority as a whole. And in many cases, it can actually amplify it and it can set you up for supporting it with somebody coming under the attack. Like for instance, with my book, oh, so you're an expert on narcissism? Not at all. My experiences came down to my experience with my ex-wife and from what I studied. And I state that on the back of the book, inside the book, and throughout it. This is what it appeared to be. This is what it seemed like. This is what it felt like. I was very careful in the differentiation of the objective and the subjective. So in that, it may relate to someone. Other people, they may have different experiences and different stories.

And that is just that much more true in a time of hype, in a time of false claims, in a time of deception. We can be a little more honest. We can walk through that. At the same time, to those that are readers, dig deeper. Check out the backgrounds of who you're buying. Don't buy it off of the cover. Don't buy it off of the claim. Look to see where these people are coming from. Are they speaking in humility and subjectivity or are they making empty claims that came out of nowhere? It came out of a linear experience, because some of them are causing danger in a way. If you all of a sudden buy the claim of the cover and you buy the hype that they're stating but you don't look into the background, and you decide to follow those methods that may not be for you, it's on you for the mistakes that you made. So vet, dig deeper, look for those that have the humility and subjectivity over claims of objectivity of things that just aren't actually true.